Welcome to my newest project called Inspired Widows & Widowers.

My name is Riley, this is a little information about My New Group & Blog Category that I am putting together for WordPress and on the Facebook platform for widows like myself that are looking to not just get by but to also be inspired. This group and blog posts will be set up to give widows and widowers, a place to share their stories, past, present, future, success, everyday struggles, hang ups, and so much more.

I’d like to start off saying, “There is life after death!!! Maybe not in the traditional manner but in the sense that if your anything like myself you may have felt like the moment your spouse took their last breath or you received that phone call that it was yours also.” The sad truth is in some ways it was but in other ways that you may not see now but one day will if you just hold on is that maybe the person you were before is changed forever. Although, through these dark times you will grow in ways you never thought possible whether you like it or not. For that reason and that alone proves that there is life after death.

The one thing every widow or widower have in common is no matter how we got here, what we have gone through or how the future will proceed. The day our spouses passed on; we joined a group of people that none of us ever wanted to be a part of. So, I’d like to start off with saying how very sorry I am for your loss. The next few moments, hours, days, weeks, months and years ahead are not going to be easy but from one widow to another the best words of wisdom I have is to take it one second at a time. Allow yourself to feel any and all your emotions but don’t let them take you down. Feel them, vent your pain and suffering but keep your head above water. There are going to be some very hard days ahead, some days are going to feel like you may not make it through them, but you will because even though your spouse is gone, YOU ARE NOT!!! A helpful exercise for the times when you find yourself caught in the moment and can’t get out try to ground yourself.

Follow Instructions Below to Ground Yourself

“Take a deep breath in through your nose till the count of 5 then breathe out through your mouth till the count of 5 again, do this over and over again as many times as it takes until you feel safe in the moment.”

Sadly, this life has taken something very special from us and left us on our own during possibly one of the hardest times in our life. I can only hope that you were prepared for some of the situations ahead but in all honesty, you can prepare with your whole heart and soul and still this experience will knock the wind out of you. I open this page up with these words because there are no words passed, I am so sorry for your loss that can be said. Nothing is going to bring your spouse back and I am truly sorry for that. Some may tell you things that at the time sound insane like maybe your spouse is in a better place, he went home, now you have a fresh start, this is now your time to grow beyond your partner, things are going to be just fine, you have this, and I can go on and on with different sayings that for someone that has not experienced this pain may think is kind, respectful, hopeful and etc. Although, for many of us those dreaded would are enough to make us want to crawl up in a ball in our beds and never come out again. Take these words for what they are and that is caring people that have no words but did the best they could to try to inspire you the best way they knew how!!

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Moving forward my hope is to take my experience and the wisdom that has been passed on to me by so many other widows to help people like you and myself to get through not just the bad days but also the good ones. Moving forward you are going to experience many days that you feel weak, scared and just flat out overwhelmed beyond all means. However, what I will say is every time you feel like you are falling down or drowning in all these emotions every second you survive you are not just growing strength. It may not feel like it or even matter but be patient and kind to yourself because you deserve both.

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For the time being please check out my blog to help you find inspiration, tips on how to better manage your time, life and health. Specifically follow my blog category Inspired Widows & Widowers for more about my experiences as a widow, some positive ways to get by, along with posts about other Inspired Widows and Widowers struggles, perseverance, and personal success. If you have a story to share, please contact me today to help me to help others like us or comment below in our comment area for a quick share. I welcome any story you feel like sharing that you think maybe helpful. Please be kind and respectful with your words and comments.

“Remember, every moment you breathe is one step in the right direction not just for yourself but also for your loved ones and your spouse. Your journey ahead is your very own to live how you want to live it. Stay true to yourself, do not let others stomp out your plans of action or halt your direction. The journey ahead is yours and yours alone!“

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